[ it's complicated. he doesn't want the pressure of having to be likable, but he also wants to be seen as a decent person and be liked and...maybe being noticed isn't right. it's about fitting in, kind of, so he takes her words into account as he mulls over them.]
I think being too openminded is just as much of a trap as being really closedminded. [ so yeah. only slightly for his own reasons. ] Trying to bother with people who're really closedminded means you're running right into them judging what they've heard about you and not changing their minds. But being too openminded also means there isn't enough accountability for things. People say they'd love for everyone to be open and honest and without judgment about anything, but...leniency means you might not be able to do what you want to do for yourself.
Or. Something like that.
[ he kind of regrets saying any of it as soon as he says it because it's a lot of dumb words, but there we are. ]
No, you're right. Extremes on that scale get you nowhere fast in either direction. Not everything should be accepted. Drawing lines is important. Having your own sense of principles is important, but so is not closing your mind to anyone or anything that doesn't fit into your preconceived notions.
Thinking you have the right judgment from the beginning only makes you more ignorant.
[ dumb words or not, here they both are. lambda can be extreme, and she has high standards about a lot of things, but she gets where jonas is coming from. ]
[ she really does just kind of come out and phrase what he's getting at a lot more succinctly and accurately than he thinks he himself has. which is why there's a little slight grin with that. ]
Yeah, that's it. That's pretty much exactly it. And isn't that the whole point of having an opinion anyway? It can change. [ a shrug. ] All the more reason we have to focus at least a little more on who we're sticking with.
[ you want to pick people that you'll still be able to vibe with even if your opinion changes. ]
Then that's a pretty crappy relationship. [ just outright. ] If you let people give you too much, you're always going to wonder what the catch is. And if you let people take too much, then you wonder how soon it'll be before nothing's left.
[ ...shrug. ]
But we'll see if any of that makes a difference here now.
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Maybe it really depends on the people.
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[ she is making a guess. she honestly doesn't know what kind of people jonas would find it easiest to be around. ]
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[ so the guess isn't too bad, but it's a little more broad, too. ]
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[ she can maybe get behind that because she prefers people to have standards.]
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Or. Something like that.
[ he kind of regrets saying any of it as soon as he says it because it's a lot of dumb words, but there we are. ]
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Thinking you have the right judgment from the beginning only makes you more ignorant.
[ dumb words or not, here they both are. lambda can be extreme, and she has high standards about a lot of things, but she gets where jonas is coming from. ]
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Yeah, that's it. That's pretty much exactly it. And isn't that the whole point of having an opinion anyway? It can change. [ a shrug. ] All the more reason we have to focus at least a little more on who we're sticking with.
[ you want to pick people that you'll still be able to vibe with even if your opinion changes. ]
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[ being perceived is scary, but being understood is worth it. ]
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Nothing more and nothing less. I'll...have to keep that in mind. [ because it's kind of helpful to hear that perspective. ]
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[ well, she actually doesn't mind if people give everything to her, but she knows other people want more balance? for some reason? ]
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[ ...shrug. ]
But we'll see if any of that makes a difference here now.